How to tell family
I'm engaged to my boyfriend of 4 years but I haven't told my family. I'm worried that they won't approve. Can someone help me find a way to tell them about the engagement?
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I'm engaged to my boyfriend of 4 years but I haven't told my family. I'm worried that they won't approve. Can someone help me find a way to tell them about the engagement?
Engagement Approval
Why do you think that they won't approve? I guess assuming they don't approve as you suspect, then I think the important thing to do is understand where they are coming from and why they don't approve. When it comes down to it my guess (or hope) is that they are looking out for what they think is best for you. If you can objectively understand why they don't approve then it may be easier to convince them that they are wrong.
As for how to tell them, that may be a trickier topic as you well know! :-) Assuming you're not planning to cut of all contact from your family, you're probably going to have to tell them at some point. My guess is that it would be better to do this sooner then later because it probably isn't going to get any easier.
On a lighter topic...congratulations! How was the engagement!? Post your story for us all to see!
I know they are looking out
I know they are looking out for me (especially cause I am the baby of the family). Their problem is because my fiance and I have had some problems in the past which we are working through and overcoming. And since he loves my son although he is from another man that is saying a lot about him. I just want my family to accept my choice.
In my opinion, the key here
In my opinion, the key here is "accept my choice". The bottom line is, this is your choice to make. Right or wrong is irrelevant, as people can only guess what the right or wrong choice is based on what they know at the time. But, in the long run...hindsight will always be 20/20 and you will not know the results of your decisions until you have made them.
As for how to tell them, I don't think there is a way to do it. You're just looking for a way to do it because it's a difficult message to deliver. But, the delivery of the message won't change that the fact that this isn't going to be an easy thing for you to do. My only suggestion is that you do it sooner then later. If you wait, then they may feel like you were being sneaky or hiding things from them and that might give them additional fuel to their dislike of the situation.
I don't know if any of this helps or if it's just blather...but thought I'd share my thoughts. Obviously, I'm no expert!